Mindful Relationships

Marriage – Not the Honeymoon You Signed Up For

“…Mindful love is not needy. A healthy intimate relationship is like two rings coming together, overlapping just in the middle. There’s a common space in the center containing mutual joy and responsibility; nonetheless, there are also the two sides that allow room for individuality…

A marriage is a lot like a silent meditation retreat anyway. In both cases, you come face-to-face with the most unlovable aspects of yourself, your messy unpleasantness, your selfishness, and the panicked impulse to duck and run. Neither experience is anything like the honeymoon you signed up for. The point is to pitch all that out and stay put. With my meditation practice, I can see that I’m still a cranky person, but I try to be a kinder cranky person. One who says less but always says, “I’m sorry.”…”

Excerpted from the book Right Here With You: Bringing Mindful Awareness into Our Relationships

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